After my husband and I had been married for about five years, we decided that it was time to start a family. I somehow believed becoming pregnant would be easy, as before marriage I had been warned repeatedly by my mother that this was the case. However, after failing to become pregnant after three months of trying, I became increasingly concerned. Following medical advice, I charted the time of the month where I ovulated and should be most fertile. I followed all advice available at that time, but still did not become pregnant. Each month when I realized that I had not become pregnant, my anxiety level increased.  I began to wonder what my life would be like if I couldn’t get pregnant and even pictured my life and emptiness without children.  Each month, when my period arrived, my thoughts and emotions became more and more focused on my lack of success in becoming pregnant.

During this time period, my husband received a job transfer to another, far away, state.  After discussing it, we decided that we should delay having a child until we had relocated, thinking that would make it easier for me to find a new job at the new location.  However, the night we received the transfer orders, and after making the decision to delay pregnancy, we did not use birth control. After months of unsuccessfully trying to become pregnant, I was not the least concerned about the lack of birth control.

Because I was no longer obsessing over becoming pregnant, it was two months later when I first realized that I was pregnant.  Later, as I reflected on this chain of events, I came to the conclusion that my increase in anxiety and negative thinking, which was fueled monthly when it became clear that I was not pregnant, was probably acting as a block to my becoming pregnant.  How ironic, I thought, that the very desire to have children could be the factor which interferes with conceiving them!  I suspect each of us have heard stories of couples who, after years of trying to become pregnant, adopt a child, only to discover a few months later that the wife is pregnant.

Later, after I established a private practice, I counseled a 40 year old woman who had become very upset over her inability to have a child. Her husband had been diagnosed with cancer, which would soon require chemotherapy treatments that could damage his sperm, making pregnancy unadvisable.  Reminded of my own experience, I created an audio tape for her to listen to repeatedly.  Her first child was born on my birthday. Her husband’s sperm was frozen so that she was able to use it to have a second healthy child a couple of years later.

Since that time, a number of women have told me that listening to this audio tape helped them to become pregnant. Other patients requested audio tapes to help them become pregnant as they went through in vitro fertilization treatments (IVF).  IVF involves removing (aspirating) eggs from the woman, fertilizing them with sperm outside of her body and them reintroducing the fertilized egg (embryo) into the woman’s uterus.

Pictured below are triplets born to a woman who listened to this script to accompany her IVF procedure.

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